It has been a little over 60 days since we announced our intentions to live on the road. It has been 30 days since we left the comfort of our large home for an RV. The reaction from the people in our lives was for the most part positive and supportive. We saw a lot of raised eyebrows, and answered a lot of questions. But for the most part people seemed excited for us. The other segment of people we heard from was very negative, and the words that left their mouth were sometimes destructive and demeaning. We have talked a lot about living a more intentional life, curating the things around us, and living a life with less so we can live a life with more. This also applies to the relationships we keep.
“We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with.” Jim Rohn
While it is important for us to feel fully supported by the people around us, it is also important to have critics and people who are unafraid to be honest with us. I am a good friend in that regard, but I always offer my honest insight with the intention of helping those I love. If I am the average of the five people I spend the most time with, then I need to curate those people carefully. I need to be intentional with my time, but still invest in others and positively delight those I come in contact. At the point where my time investment seems to be fruitless, I need to be comfortable walking away.
When we announced our intentions to live on the road we had some unbelievably negative reactions by a decent percentage of the people we called friends. I was accused of “child abuse” because Malachi will be home schooled by his mom with no kids his age. We were told we were “stupid” for leaving good jobs and cutting our income down by 75%. We were told we would “fail” which could happen, but if it does we will “Fail Gloriously.” We were told this would cause a divorce, or that that having debt was a healthy part of American life!? So we downsized those in our lives that were negative. We are not afraid of an opposing view, but when people speak negativity and attempt to tear down our family we have decided to simply do what we have been doing. We will minimize.
“You can’t change the people around you, but you can change the people around you” Joshua Fields Milburn